I have been rewarding my kids so much more for the things they do right!! I am using the rod in love more since hearing the teaching from the dvd of The Joy Of Training, but I’m also rewarding them more!
The idea I want to pass along that I’m doing.
2 months ago I created an excel spreadsheet with a list of ideas for the kids to get rewarded pretend money. I would put a check mark on each thing as they did it during the week. Then on Friday’s give them the pretend money they earned and they could but things from the blue bucket. This did teach and train them for what things they can do to get rewarded or praised. This got too tedious to keep track of so then I resorted to this:
I have a blue plastic bucket with a lid in my pantry up high filled with things my children love that are not expensive. I will give them one thing from there when I decide they are doing really good!
The rule is they can’t ask or remind me. I have to initiate it when I feel they are doing something great or have a great attitude.
My kid’s have enjoyed more verbal praise from me and stuff from the blue bucket periodically! I’m pleased with the results. I see when their heart’s are in it and not just doing something for a reward! That’s the goal of course.
Ever since I have understood the teaching from www.nogreaterjoy.org there has been more hugging and peace in my home!
Thank you Lord!
Update now that it is January 2019
What I am doing now that works better is:
Every time any of my kids do something right I give them a pom-pom in a 16 oz plastic bottle that I cut the top off of. Once that bottle is full they each get a fruit Popsicle with no added sugar. I empty the 16 oz bottle of pom-poms into a glass flower vase. Once that vase fills up with pom-poms they can have a special reward of their choice.
This idea is practical and simple for me because it helps me to remember to praise them for saying yes mam or turning off lights! This helps me to remind them of the verse, “He who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it sins.” When they obey the first time without having to get disciplined to obey they get a pom-pom.
I still discipline them privately when they need it, but what has helped me discipline them even more, is I write their name and situation in my calendar so that when their daddy, Matthew, gets home he knows what he needs to talk with them about. The kids are wanting to avoid getting their name written in my calendar book, so they are doing the right thing more.